*crawls out of hole and slumps back into chair*
Ugh, what a week. Double “ugh” for having a post written out and accidentally hitting the back button and losing it all. Makes me wish Xanga was like WordPress which saves your draft every few minutes.
ANYWAYS. I’m here. I’m still pretty miserable but the numbness that left me in a foggy daze is starting to wear off. Starting to “feel” again, even if it’s mostly (justafiable) rage, anger, and bitter disappointment.
I hate how I’m literally and figuratively been the whipping boy for my partner’s miserable failings at being a responsible adult. 3 back to back MAJOR areas that he completely, and utterly failed in that ended up costing ME not only almost $1k but also my vacation this weekend. You know, the “get away” that I’ve been yammering on about for the past month. Yeah. That one.
Honestly, this was one of the first times since the beginning of our relationship that I actually considered breaking up with him. I was that angry. No one would have blamed me, even though his parents agreed with me that he was treating me like *I’m* his mom, they wouldn’t take him back. GEE I WONDER WHY?
So instead of this week/weekend being one of the most monumental and joyous occasions for me and my partner, it has been a series of steps backwards. A series of alternating who sleeps on the couch, of me barricading the living room with punji sticks. A contest of “Who Wants to be the Biggest Douche?” (Spoiler alert: He won. My apologies to anyone who had money riding on me; I gave it my best shot). From Monday until just last night I haven’t been able to keep any food down. 1 can of Dr. Pepper and 7 M&M’s have been all I’ve lived off of this week. Hopefully, tonight I’ll have my first decent meal of the week. My body just does not respond well to conflict. My mind doesn’t respond well for being taken for granted, for being grossly under-appreciated, and also for basically being blamed and punished for things that were absolutely not my fault. It was not my fault at all that my partner decided to ignore everybody who was trying to remind him that he lives in a time-based reality, a reality where things HAVE to be done by a certain time or suffer the consequences. For some reason, this week I feel like I’m the only one who’s suffered the consequences. I dislike being the whipping boy.
I also realized this week that I need something more substantial to work towards. I’m an extremely goal-oriented person, and so when things like this happen (I set a goal, ie. vacation, and bust my @$$ for it only to have it taken away right when I was at the finish) I just kinda lose it. I begin to question why I do anything that I do at all if this is all I get. I question my very existence. I *need* something to work towards. I feel like if I don’t, then what’s the point to life anyways? Healthy mindset? No. Definitely something I need and want to work on.
In a way, I’m almost glad things went the way they did now that I’m able to think clearer and more rationally, and also since it seems that he has FINALLY woken up and has seen the damage that his irresponsibility causes, the stress it puts our relationship under, and how frakin easy it is to fix. It’s not really that big a deal to learn how to be on time, and learn how to do multiple steps yourself instead of relying on your saint of a girlfriend to do all your legwork for you if there are more steps than just Step 1. I’m done bending over backwards for this kid at the moment. I told him I wasn’t going to just chuck him in the deep end alone but he’s going to be doing his own swimming. I’ll be watching close by in the boat if he needs help but for now, he’s on his own when it comes to his affairs. If he wants me to not kill him when he goes back to school, he needs to learn to get things done without me standing on top of him or worse, doing it for him. I just don’t have time for that anymore. I tried to show him this was a problem for a few years, but he’s ignored it. Not getting to go on vacation anymore was a wake up call for him. Even though as it stands right now we could go on vacation like nothing happened and we would actually still be able to pay the bills and eat, I don’t even want to go anymore. At least not this week. I need time. I need time to get excited about this again instead of just wanting to die thinking about it.
For now, I just need rest. Rest and maybe a long drive tomorrow afternoon to clear my head. I’ve decided to go ahead and take the time I’ve requested off, even though I could work, because I deserve a break. I deserve my 3 day weekend, even if it is nothing like I had planned it to be for the past month.
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