June 13, 2013
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The Weirdest Message I’ve Ever Received
I got a message this morning from another social networking site and I have to say, out of all the messages I have received this one takes the cake (and that includes the one copy/paste of a novel some guy was sending all the girls in my area describing in great detail how wet and excited I would be when he barged into my house for consentual non-consentual sex… yeah… but that one like I said was mass messaged to a lot of different girls. We made fun of him mercilessly).
Tiny bit of background story:
I have been chatting with this guy on and off after he commented on some pictures I had posted on the site. We mainly just discussed video games and the like.
Then I get this:“Hi. I want to ask you a question. I think the reason I started this account, was that I have PTSD from my time in Iraq and Afghanistan, but I am afraid to go to the VA hospital to tell them about it. I guess I felt like if I started an account here what I am turned on by and masturbate, explicitly, it will help me become comfortable to go to the VA about that. I was wondering if I could tell you about the things that turn me on on here, and if you don’t want to hear them, please, delete me, block me, whatever. I am very high right now, please don’t take that as a disrespect. Sorry. Goodnight.”
DAFUQ?!
Comments (22)
O_o
Huh…
Yeah, I think he needs more than the help that the VA can provide.
What…. The fuck? Lol.
@laytexduckie - That’s the exact face I made when I opened my messages this morning.
@Super_Rob_of_the_Sky - Agreed.
@TakingxOverxMe - Yeah, I know right? Totally creeped out.
Ummm…he needs to go to the VA now. Do not stop at GO or collect $200!
That is a new pick up line. How come us guys never get girls telling us lines like that?
Interesting.
Did you proceed in blocking him?
@thegunslingergirl - If you don’t mind me asking, what social networking site was it on?
Umm weird??!!?? What a confusing email.
Whoaaaa
How would making an account about what he masturbates over help him go to therapy to deal with his trauma from being in Iraq?!
Sounds like he was just making some weird excuse to be able to talk dirty with you.
That’s disturbing.
Yeah, I agree with @AutumnStrength, I just think he was using his (completely irrelevant) Iraq baggage to test the waters and see if you would be open to some good ol’ fashioned cyber sex. An alternate title for this blog post could be “Worst Pickup Line Ever”.
@MyxlDove – And the bit about being ‘high’ is most probably a planned excuse for if she’s offended so he can say, ‘Sorry, I was high, I’m not normally like that’.
Whaaaa? There are no words.
@MyxlDove - There is more to the military and particularly war vet mind than you might grasp right now.
There is so much masculinity attached to violence and takeover. Sometimes, people even talk about how it makes them hard when they get a good (rifle or whatever) shot off, it’s like an ultimate, “YAH!! I’M THE MAN!!!” high. And since it’s tied to masculinity and pride, and virility, it’s not a large step over to actual arousal.
Which happens.
So this guy may have gotten aroused at violence from horrible things he saw or did in his war service. How traumatic that must be. To feel aroused and guilty at the same time because you *know* it’s wrong.
It IS a mental challenge for those coming back from war zones. It IS associated with PTSD. And he DOES need to get help to work through his thoughts and physical actions as a result of his service for this country and for people around the world.
I don’t think badly of him. I do think he’s reaching out for help. I don’t think he’s doing it the “right way.” But who can define that for him?
The things that turn him on are going to be violent, I assume. I wouldn’t personally indulge his confessional.
@PrincessPowers - I agree with you on all points. I am not and was not planning on consenting to hearing anything along those lines. Just puts you in an awkward position I guess because obviously this person needs help but I am in no way qualified to provide that.
@PrincessPowers - Oh, I hear you. My brother is a Sergeant in the Army (he retires this year after 23 years in) and he’s told me of people who have developed an association between sex and military violence. It certainly wasn’t my intention to come across as insensitive to those who suffer from PTSD associated with war. But based solely on what Meg wrote here, his request seemed… oddly misplaced. And maybe it’s that small cynical part of me that questions his motives.
Wait, so that doesn’t work to pick up chicks on the internet???
Poor guy. I am glad to hear that you won’t be participating in listening though. Unfortunately, I think he’s justified in being afraid to go to a VA hospital. I agree with @PrincessPowers.
If it were me, I would recommend him talking to someone he’s close to or a private therapist. Those are obvious though, so I’m assuming he doesn’t have those options. Perhaps he will be lucky with whoever he speaks with at the VA.
I’m calling Bullshit.
Dollars to donuts this fucker either
A- was never in a uniform that he didn’t get from the surplus store
B- was in, never left the continental US
and is using the excuse of PTSD because he thinks it sounds good, or because he can’t just man up and tell you about his kink.
I could be wrong, but I never am.
Which means do what he said… delete/block.
Fucking twink. That shit is real, and those who genuinely have it acquired it in hell… to trivialize it as relating to spanking your money… $&%$!
I find this very disturbing. Red flags popping up in his words. He needs help, but you don’t need to feel obligated to be his friend or help him.
HUGS!