March 20, 2013
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Disclaimer: Lots of Complaining
I’m in a ranty/complaining mood and since I don’t really feel like being broken up with today I’ll just vent here. That’s what this place is for sometimes, right?
Anyways, Reid is planning on switching jobs soon. Right now he works for a popular chain restaurant. He’s been there for a little over 2 years. As most everyone knows, restaurants are usually busiest during dinner time and weekends. Right now, Reid has gained enough seniority and respect from the operating partners that a few months ago he was able to basically say, “Hey guys, I never get to see my girlfriend because she works 7am-5pm Monday-Friday. Could I have Friday night and all of Saturday off so we can actually see each other?” The operating partner he has now is awesome and granted his request as long as he was available to work all day Sunday (typically he works open to close on Sundays). It’s been nice because before we never, ever got to see each other except for some nights when I would force myself to stay awake long enough to tell him goodnight when he got home (I’m a recovering insomniac, I need my sleep).
The operating partner he has now is leaving soon because she is pregnant. They’ve already sent another guy up here for the past few days to scope the place out. Rumor is he will likely be the new operating partner once the one in place now goes on maternity leave.
This new guy is a huge asshole. Much like Allen (the operating partner who first hired Reid on. He is one angry, angry man who made life hell for everybody. Don’t believe me? When they shipped Allen up north to another branch, half the staff walked out and quit that day right in the middle of their shift. HALF the restaurant). This new guy doesn’t sound any better than Allen. Apparently he has already thrown a few bitch fits, including ripping up one of the checkbook things because it had a small tear in the front and started screaming, “How dare you bring me this piece of crap!” to the server.Don’t get me wrong, I don’t want Reid to work under those conditions again. It was awful.
But selfishly, I don’t want him to change jobs either. He has two very good prospects lined up that he is almost guaranteed a job thanks to his connections. Both are very upscale places. Both places are only open after 5 on weekdays and for lunch and dinner on weekends. Basically, I will probably never get to see Reid except for maybe an evening or two a week. That means no more day trips, no more going out and doing fun things (I work for 10hrs a day, I’m too tired to do stuff after work).
I’m devastated. Just completely devastated. He’s been wanting to change jobs for a while because corporate for his chain is just looney toons and unbearable (but it’s like that everywhere). There’s no way he will be able to go in as a noob to these places and be like, “Oh yeah, I don’t work Friday nights or Saturdays.” Just no way. He’s mad at me for being “negative”. I’m not being negative, I’m being a realist. I’m under no disillusion. Why is it so bad to know the truth of the situation? Would he rather me be all rainbows and unicorns that poop skittles until proven wrong and THEN devastated? Why not already start that process now and get it over with.
I don’t know what I’m going to do. I already don’t see the point in working like we do when we never get to spend time together. I don’t want fancy things, I don’t want to move to a nicer place. I don’t want tons of vacations every year. I just want to spend time with him. That’s what keeps me going. But going into this new phase knowing that all I’m working for is nothing now is just hard. I’m going to be working my 40+ hours a week to come home to a Reid-less house since the places he wants to work open at 5 (which is a half hour before i even get off work). I’ll spend my weekends alone. That’s just the way it will be. I already spend half of my weekend alone. Really it feels like I get one day off a week because Sundays don’t really count to me since I don’t get to see Reid and I spend all of that day working on other things to keep me distracted.
So yeah, I guess I’m done now. I just don’t feel motivated to do much of anything anymore because it all seems pointless. I’m so jealous of his parents. They get to work together (and I work for them so I work with them. I see them more than I get to see their son whom I live with). I’ve already been struggling with how little I get to see him. Knowing that that meager time I get with him is quickly running out too just has me close to giving up on everything. Long distance would be better than this. We’ve already been through that too. Hell, at one point we could only write letters to each other (I was at BMT). At least we actually got to talk to each other every day. We don’t even get that now. I can’t talk or text him when he is at work and most times he comes home at night and I’ve already gone to bed.
Sorry, I’m just incredibly upset.
Comments (7)
I see that you’ve been in a LDR before, but not being able to even touch your SO (boyfriend), do you remember what thats like?
First of all, how you feel is completely understandable and I’m glad you’re able to vent here. And while I obviously don’t know the circumstances, is there anything that would prevent Reid from working for his parents and thus working with you and having the same days/time off?
@MyxlDove - I actually have his old job with his parents. It was only supposed to be a summer internship but I’ve made myself useful enough that they’ve kept me around. There isn’t enough work for him to do as well, and even if there was he would never go back and work for them. He HATED this job because of his ADD (whereas I am the opposite and I love mundane repetitive tasks). I actually made him quit working for his parents a few years ago and look for another job because he hated it so much and was miserable. I thought about applying to be a hostess where he works but there would be no guarantee we would have the same schedule, plus they don’t hire significant others or spouses. There is one friend of his family who has a restaurant in South Carolina that we have thought about going down there to work together over the summer but the logistics is a bit much (wouldn’t have a place down there to live long enough to lease plus we have a lot of animals). I wish we could work together, but that choice isn’t on the table. At all.
@Thatslifekid - I do remember. I struggle with what’s worse, not getting to touch him because of distance (so it was totally out of the question) or the fact that we barely even get to touch now before his schedule changes. TMI but as it is we only even have time to maybe have sex on Saturdays, we haven’t had sex during the week in ages. He doesn’t hold my hand when we go out in public and we never cuddle in bed (don’t really know why). Maybe if he does get a new job he will actually touch me more. That would actually be a plus.
Wow, I remember having a real jerk for a boss, it wasn’t fun at all. I have great bosses now, so coming to work is enjoyable. I don’t like changing jobs just because of the unknown. Will the boss be nice after you get to know them? Will there be other employees that are jerks? It is kind of a scary time, but I’m sure Reid will do fine. I hope you two are able to find time to spend together.
So you work ten hour days, five days a week?
@forever_musing - Oh, okay. I completely understand that. I figured there had to be a reason since that seemed at first glance to be a simple solution. I do hope things work out and you get to finally have time to regularly spend together.
So sorry this is happening and am sending good vibes that it all turns out better than you think they will.