March 15, 2013

• Deftones

  Wednesday night I went and saw the Deftones with my ex-fiance’s sister. It’s funny because ever since her brother and I broke up, we still go see concerts together at least once a year. We went and saw Chevelle a few months after I got dumped, then I took her to see Mute Math, and then the next year we saw Chevelle again (her all time favourite band). We have a lot of fun together but I haven’t really kept in much contact with anyone in E’s family since we broke up. I didn’t know what the proper protocol was for an ex who was engaged to be married. Did his family still want me around? I didn’t know so I assumed they didn’t. If their son didn’t want me around, then it figures that they might not as well. L (his sister) and I got a little drunk before the concert (pregamed in the parking garage because we’re classy as fuck like that). The concert was amazing. I got to rub Chino’s head when he jumped down in the crowd (I have to say for being an hour and a half late to get to the show we got an amazing spot with a great view). I felt like such a creeper just gently rubbing his head but his hair felt so nice! Since the concert was about 2 hours out of town I decided to get a hotel room (I’ve made that drive many times after a concert and every time I regretted it because I would almost all asleep at the wheel or get home and not get enough rest before work/class). To my amazement the concert was over before 11 (I think the opening band didn’t play at all because Deftones went on at 8:45 and the show started at 8. I’ve never heard of a 2 band show’s opener playing for only 20min so we figured they were no-show).

  It was really great getting to spend time with L. I told her that I just wanted her to know I didn’t harbor any ill feelings towards her and her family and brother. Quite the opposite. I really miss his mom (although R’s mom is just the bomb. I am so happy that hopefully one day she will be my real legal mother-in-law, because she treats me like a daughter already and it’s just awesome). I missed hanging out with L too. She and I were pals. She hated my guts at first because I was E’s first relationship so she thought I was stealing him away but then she realized I was awesome (I mean come on, I am awesome!). She started to tear up when I told her that and asked if she could pass that along to E. Apparently he is still torn up about dumping me (I did tell her that he broke off our engagement and dumped me in a Target parking lot, she got pissed, I laughed). I will admit, for a while I was COMPLETELY devastated that he dumped me, and for a couple of years afterwards I would’ve been lying if I said I wouldn’t take him back in a heart beat. Now it doesn’t bother me. I am ultimately so much more happy and free with Reid. He has shown me happiness in ways that I would have NEVER had with E. I just wouldn’t. He wasn’t capable of it, and that’s okay. He’s not a bad guy. Even Reid has gotten over his hatred of him (he realized that maybe he wasn’t a monster but just made a lot of mistakes).
  Like I said, I was E’s first girlfriend, much less fiance. He made a lot of mistakes because he didn’t know better. And I didn’t know enough to realize that I honestly deserved better. But I do now. I have what I deserve. I have everything I wanted and more.

  There was a funny bit, L came out and said that she hates E’s new girlfriend. I confessed to her that through some stealthy stalking I was able to track this girl down and since everything of hers is public on Facebook I saw pics, read status’ and immediately thought, “Man, if E still had his Facebook he would realize that this girl is EVERYTHING he has said he did not want in a girl.” L said that exact same thing before I even told her I knew E had a girlfriend, much less had found her profile and thought the EXACT same thing as her. I even told Reid about her. She’s definitely a Klingon (and sort of looks like one too). L said that E told her the only reason he could see himself marrying her is that she would make him mad enough one day to just do it to shut her up.

  I’m so glad I’m not with him anymore.
  

  

  

  

  

  The last picture is my favourite. That one was taken during Change in the House of Flies. They also played Digital Bath, You’ve Seen the Butcher, Rocket Skates, Be Quiet and Drive (Far Away), and My Own Summer (Shove It). In short, it was one of the most fun and satisfying shows I have been to in a long time. They played most of my favourites. I will definitely see them again if I get the opportunity.

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